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Tip #5: Put Yourself First

So many of us are afraid to say no when people reach out for
help, advice and support, and by not considering whether saying
“yes” is good for us, it can easily lead to incredibly high stress
levels.

Are you someone who often takes on more than you can handle?

Are you a “yes” person?

Are you finding yourself emotionally and mentally depleted
because you give so much of yourself to others?

Are you struggling through toxic relationships that don’t add any
value or happiness to your life?

And being a “yes” person doesn’t just apply to your personal life,
but quite often “yes” people are the same way with their jobs orStress Relief Strategies: Special Report 22
careers.

They don’t want to miss out on an opportunity so they sign on for
as many tasks or projects as possible.
They’re worried that they’ll fall behind the competition, so they
say yes to every marketing strategy or new course that pops up
online claiming to help them enhance their business skills.

Sometimes managers will reward hard workers with a higher
workload output, assuming they’ll be motivated by the bonus
despite any consideration as to whether they will be able to
perform consistently at the required level.

All of this often backfires since people can only do so much before
burning themselves out and depleting themselves of that creative
energy and motivation to excel. Even if you’re someone who
thrives under pressure, the truth is, we all have a breaking point.

If you find yourself in this situation, take a step back and look over
your workload. Ask yourself what you can get done within a
reasonable amount of time, and then discuss this with your
manager, business partner – or simply yourself!

Explain why taking on a heavier workload will cause your current
one to suffer in quality. And if you work for yourself, consider
restructuring your schedule and reducing your workload by
getting rid of the tasks that you don’t personally need to do. Learn
to delegate or outsource.

If you’re a student who is constantly stressed out about your
course load, then consider taking on a lighter one next semester,
or if it’s not too late, dropping one you’re currently enrolled in but
that you may not need.

Or perhaps you’re going to school full-time while also working
full-time. Look at the benefits of going part-time, see if you can
rework your budget and make it work.

In the long run, these changes might require that you stay in
school longer than you expected, or change your current living
situation, but your mind and body will thank you.

Above all else, be selective with your overall workload and what
favors you do for people. Prioritize what household chores need
to be done, what bills must be paid right away, and know when to
say no.

If someone else is asking you for help, then chances are good they
understand what it means to have too much on your plate.